While I have been lucky in my residency, and only working evenings and weekends when I have shows, I can't return to "regular" SM work now that I have a child. At least not anytime soon. I will say, my residency has been very accommodating of my son, probably based on the fact that I've been there for over 12 years, and I was able to bring him to work with me a few days a week the first 9 months of his life. However, in an AEA situation, children aren't permitted to be around (unless they are performers), and it would be difficult enough taking care of my son's needs in addition to my workload during a rehearsal day.
Stage Managing is my full time job; my husband works for the government. If we were forced to stop daycare, I would be the one who would have to quit my job, as my husband brings in better pay. During the summers I move for an on-site job for the entire month of July. My husband becomes a single dad, going to work and taking care of my son on evenings and weekends. Sometimes they visit me, if they want to make the 4-hour round trip drive. This month-long-job is my family's limit for me working somewhat "regular" SM hours.
If my resident position ends, then I can't return to regular SM work, as that kind of schedule won't work for my family year-round. I would then have to try to find similar residency job, or go into another line of work altogether, that fits the 9am-5pm Monday-Friday work schedule. I seriously dread the day that happens.
When we decided to have a child, I thought my career would be over, but thankfully I've been able to keep it going for 3 years so far. However, when push comes to shove, I have to choose family over the job I love. I love my family more.