I did not mean to sound offensive. It is just what I have noticed. I have worked in other positions, under female and male SM's and a lot of the cast honestly do not expect the male SM's to act in the same way as female SM's - and in many cases they don't. Neither is "Better", they are just "Different".
It is a fact of nature that we do treat men and women differently, just as it is a fact of nature that men and women have different thought processess. Women (as a general rule), are a lot more nurturing than men are (again, this is a generalisation and whilst I don't like typecasting, these are observations). Personality traits are dictated by a number of factors - society, genetics, etc. - and whilst it is no longer "Men provide, women care for the family", society still places a lot of emphasis on the women in the role of carer. Divorces are a great example of this - it is assumed that children are better off primarily with their mother (at least in Australia it tends to be) - equal visitation is rare. And people tend to expect what society has raised them to expect. My answer was not intended to say "Hospitality type stuff is womens work", but rather to say that if I were a female, I probably would have been encouraged to be a lot more, again with that word, nurturing than I am as a male, and my cast would accept it more readily.
I am more than capable in the kitchen, and I have been for most of my life - single child raised with a father who was at work more often than not, with a mother who wanted many children (problems during my birth) and was off work due to back injury, had me spending a lot of time with her in the kitchen. I love cooking. When I was just starting out as an SM, I brought in home made biscuits one day, and everyone said "Did your mum make these?" or "Who made the biscuits?" - straight off the bat assumed that I didn't. That is just how people think (although that mindset is changing slowly I believe).
Now as I said, I believe cast and crew are old enough to look after themselves with regards to hospitality. They are grown men and women. I make the basic things available - but that is the extent I will go to. I believe it is not my role to brew 5 different kinds of coffee, provide 7 different teas and 7 different brands of milk and sweeteners. The simple fact is if they want something more than instant coffee and tea bags they can bring it in themselves.