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« on: Sep 14, 2006, 12:00 am »
Sorry, but this one's going to be a little whiney. I've had a bad day/week/month and I need to get some of it out:
Tonight during a 10 minute break my ASM took it upon himself (as I feel that he should) to begin to set up for the next act. I was doing something personal at my table and an actor made the comment "You know, you're the first SM I've ever seen who just sits there and lets their assistant do all the work." He then (as people do when they've said something moderately insulting) proceeded to say "Don't take it personally, I was just making an observation."
Well I did take it personally. He just made an unsolicited comment, in front of the whole room, about how he thinks I do not do my job properly.
So I casually said to him "Well Kyle (ASM) just redid his paperwork and wants to check everything out himself." Kyle then said "I need to learn to do this and if she's not going to help with intermission, I don't want her helping now." Which is not to say that 5 minutes or so into his working I don't say "What would you like me to do?" or I don't just help out and say "I did this and this and this."
{I should note that I am friendly with this actor and it was not that his comment was out of context, just that I found it innapropriate. Also, this is this particular ASM's first time running a show by himself and I feel that it's very important for him to learn the process of tracking and creating paperwork that he can use. We talk frequently about it methods, and the like.}
The actor then proceeded to again say he didn't mean anything personal, and I said to him, "Well, I'm sorry, but I do take it personally." End of conversation and we are fine, the actor and I.
Here's the thing: I called my friend whom I ASMed with for an entire year and I said to her "When we did scene shifts did X or Y (our resident SMs there) just get up and start helping?" She said "Um, never. Not unless I'm really behind and say so and ask for help. It's not their job and I don't expect it."
And neither do I. I've never had a stage manager help me unless we are short on time for a big shift in the context of rehearsal. Obviously an SM would help move a table or boat or whatever b/c that's too much for one person to do themself, but as an ASM, scene shifts were my responsibility and mine alone. If I said "I would like help for this," they were glad to, but it never came without a request for it.
I realise that every situation is different, but it brings up a question that I've never questioned before.
So I'm just curious: How involved are you with your ASM's duties during rehearsal?