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Employment / Re: More on juggling: guilt and rejection
« on: Oct 17, 2012, 10:10 am »Also, since I'm trying to decipher theater norms, I'm going to provide a hypothetical/contextual situation: Let's say you're in discussions about a job. There's no offer, but the company has been very specific to let you know they are NOT looking at anyone else for the position. Things should firm things up in several weeks. Let's say that you really want this job, but you also realize that... well, there's no offer. Let's also say for the sake of simplicity that the theater circuit is small, and if you are talking with others word WILL get around. To me, although practical, it feels somewhat rude to go out looking for something else. But if I'm understanding correctly, in the theater world, "always looking" is totally expected - it's normal and there are no hard feelings about continuing to be on the market... Is it so?
Lots of us stage managers have a strong sense of commitment and dedication, which benefits our productions, so it’s understandable to feel torn between looking and waiting. Keep in mind though that the whole process of looking for work can feel intensely personal for the job seeker, while for the employer, it tends to be just business, even in theater. They probably have people say “no” to them regularly for various reasons. Early in my career I worried that turning down offers would have negative ramifications, but it always turned out that I’d been stressed out for no reason; other opportunities with those companies eventually came back around. I think it’s completely fair to talk to your hypothetical company and say you’d like to get something in writing so that you can hold time in your schedule for that production. If that conversation makes you nervous, a smaller step might be to ask them what their timeline is for putting together a contract, so you know whether they’re stringing you along for another week, or for several months. Even if they hear you are talking to other companies, they could think you are looking to fill out your season; I doubt they would automatically count you as out of the running for their show.
Until someone “puts a ring on it” so to speak, I’d think the expectation would be that both you and the company are still “dating” other people, so continuing to look is OK. Despite what they’ve said about not looking for anyone else, you never know what could happen on their end. Until it’s in writing, another stage manager who is “looking” could proactively talk to them, and they may prefer that SM’s qualifications or connections. I was once holding time for a show where the PM wanted to hire me, but it got put on hold because the director had a favorite SM and they agreed to negotiate with that person first. Turned out the other SM wasn’t interested, but I certainly kept looking until it was in writing.