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« on: Oct 14, 2008, 12:25 am »
I was just having this discussion with my fellow ASM on the walk back from a low-energy, i-could-just-kill-them tech rehearsal tonight. We both had very close friends in HS who were actors, I was an actor in HS, and both of us have friends who know that we have two sides-the friend and the SM. During tech week, it is just accepted that the SM takes over and nothing that happens in rehearsal is personal, we're just doing our jobs.
The situation posed is exactly where it gets tricky. I haven't run into this too much, but it has happened, and at that point, I make sure they know that I am totally willing to be their friend/confidant/crying shoulder before or after rehearsal, but in those few hours that we're in the theater each day, we both set aside the personal stuff and do our jobs. On occasion, I - and some other SMs I know - have been asked by directors who know that we're friends with so-and-so if there is personal stuff going on that should be addressed by someone better qualified (all I have done is educational settings, so often there are grade issues or rough friendships, family drama, etc), but if it's not that pressing of an issue, I have had to ask friends to stop dwelling on whatever the issue is and told them that if it keeps affecting their performance, there are consequences.
I think the important thing is to differentiate between the SM and the friend--I try to make a point of not discussing rehearsal/show politics/people outside of production meetings and rehearsals, in order to keep the two worlds separate.