I've been with my fiance (getting married in October in the middle of the run of THREE different shows, but that's a whole different story) for over 10.5 years. We've been through college in different states and working in 2 very different fields (Theatre & Law). One thing we've found is that you have to set aside time to just
be with each other. Not just date nights or errands or projects, but just hanging around at the same time. There's points when all we see of each other for weeks is when she's up early getting ready to go lawyerin' and I'm getting home late after tech.
As far as long-term plans, I see myself transitioning out of the SM role and into something with more "normal-people" hours. Maybe a TD gig or teaching. She's put up with a lot from me and really has carried me through this crazy career of mine. I think I'd agree to whatever rules she wants in order to make it work.
And all these stories are really great! Makin' me hopeful and junk...
. . . which leads me to believe maybe we should form a sub-board so SOOSMS (Significant Others Of Stage Managers) . . . with great topics like "How to be supportive during a 10/12?", "What things to say to the unemployed stage manager?", "Why don't I ever see my Spouse anymore?")
Love this!
We also just bought a really nice coffee table. Ouch couch is a hand-me-down futon from my parents....still workin' on that.