Common courtesy is the LEAST of what should be expected from everyone. Remember, if the Ridiculous Beast were an Equity member, she would be violating several tenants of the
Responsibilities of an Actor in our kits: to be on time, to notify the SM before half hour about lateness and absence, to cooperate with the Stage Manager, and it asks that actors "maintain a professional attitude at all times". Gotracigo would have grounds to press charges on several fronts.
When the Ridiculous Beast chased Gotracigo, it indicated the actress is unstable. Gotracigo is not a catalyst or an accessory to the crazy person acting crazy, she is a victim. It's not her job to be a victim, that's not the reason she's paid more than everyone else in the room (that has to do with hours), and she cannot be responsible for another adult's outrageous behavior.
She did apologize that the actor felt she was being condescending, but it didn't diffuse the situation, although it was the best way to handle it. To simply say "it's my fault" when an actor is being unreasonable is a very poor choice. Would the SM look like she had command of the situation? Would the artistic staff believe the SM could maintain the integrity of the show?
yes, and we work in ridiculous business. i know directors, top tier, huge name directors, who can only yell a note during tech.
what am i going to do, say no to working with them.
hardly.
AGAIN . . . all bringing it back to style . . . you either put up with it or walk away from it. It's your choice.
The industry is changing the way it handles out-of-control artists. I know of an opera director and a theatre director who were both put on hiatus from certain houses after displays of unprofessionalism. In opera, there have been two or three high profile firings of misbehaving singers in as many years. If even management has been converted to seeing tantrums as unacceptable, surely WE should see that too.
And, there is something that can be done. If a director is being abusive, and management will not handle it, call the union. My friend has 20 years experience, 8 years at a hugely prestigious house, and was in that very situation. The union's lawyers sent a letter to management compelling them to act on her behalf. The director was sanctioned by management, and the SM still works for the company.