I can see how this production has made you feel disrespected and exasperated. At the same time, from the outside this looks like it is not about you (personally) or you (the stage manager); it is about what the members of the production team are choosing to do. Their expectations for what they should be doing are apparently different from yours, which is not necessarily the same as them not respecting you or your job. How does it help you to assume they disrespect you, or to dwell on the fact that they do? I would think it just increases your feelings of anger and frustration. I know it’s easier to say than do, but I would try to find your joy in the production wherever you can. It may not save the show, but it will save your emotional energy. Remind yourself that the responsibility for the success of the production does not rest solely on your shoulders. You cannot get your team to pull their act together if they don’t want to, but you can foster an atmosphere of open communication, respect, and positivity as everyone struggles to do the best they can in the time remaining. It sounds like you already feel the cast is on your side, and they will need your support in dealing with the anxiety and change of Tech, especially if the rest of the team is unorganized. Some shows come together beautifully at the last minute; yours could still be one of those.