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Students and Novice Stage Managers / Re: Harassment issue at a set build

« on: Jul 10, 2013, 08:55 am »

Just to clarify a few things, The girl's mother is not picking her up because she lives within easy walking distance of the school.  As far as involving the parents goes, I spoke with her mother on the day this came to my attention when I dropped the girl at home and was told that the girl was "seeking attention" and "it is not a big deal", however any student feeling unsafe in the school is a big deal to me and the rest of our program.  As far as my ASM walking with her goes, that was what our director suggested we do while he works with the school to avoid her walking alone and keep this issue as private as it can be.  It is much easier for my ASM to magically need to leave the theatre at the same time this girl needs to than it is for any of the adults. 

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Students and Novice Stage Managers / Re: Harassment issue at a set build

« on: Jul 09, 2013, 03:00 pm »

Thank you all for your help. I spoke with our director today and he is working with the school to find a solution. At this point my only worry is my freshman who is still terrified, I am trying to walk the line between being a friend to her and an adult.  I do not care if she gets mad at me for talking to the director, it had to happen, however I am concerned that if this boy does show up again or continues with this behavior in another way she will not tell me or anyone else.  At the moment my ASM is accompanying her when she leaves the theatre, however my ASM told me that she was very evasive and hard to keep an eye on today.  So I suppose what I'm asking is how do I protect someone who clearly does not want and will not accept help?

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Students and Novice Stage Managers / Harassment issue at a set build

« on: Jul 09, 2013, 12:16 am »

Hi,

I am the SM for our high school's summer theatre program and today I encountered an issue that I am not sure how to deal with.  One of the rising freshman in the program left the stage during a build to get a drink and came bursting back in less than a minute later looking absolutely petrified, at first she refused to tell me why and claimed she was fine but she eventually caved and told me an ex-boyfriend of hers was out in the lobby and he claimed to have been waiting for her.  I thought it was normal high school drama at first but she glued herself to me for the rest of the build and stayed in the theatre until I left which was an hour and a half after the actual build ended.  On the way home she explained to me that this boy has harassed her in the past and was physically abusive while she was dating him.  My first reaction was to go to the director and that is still my plan for tomorrow, however she has begged me not to and swears she will deny it.  My other issue is this boy is not a member of the theatre program and therefore has no tie to our director and with school out I'm not sure what, if any, disciplinary action can be taken against him.  Any help you can offer on this would be greatly appreciated.